"I was a dandelion puff...Some saw the beauty in me and stooped quietly to admire my innocence. Others saw the potential of what I could do for them, so they uprooted me, seeking to shape me around their needs. They blew at my head, scattering my hair from the roots, changing me to suit them. Yet still others saw me as something that was unworthy and needed to be erased."
-nicole bailey-williams
From the day we are born, we learn stories about ourselves that others tell. Stories about who, how and what our culture and others believe we need to be to earn acceptance and belonging. We are much like dandelions, our tenacity and resilience reflected in how we adapt to grow anywhere and how, often, we feel unseen, underappreciated and underestimated. And, as with dandelions, when we dig below the surface to learn about their true nature, we find a deep root whose depth increases each time the blossom is removed, much like our experience with becoming ourselves. The source of our resilience often appearing as a deeply rooted sense of inner knowing, available if we only take the time to listen.
The process of therapy is a lot like the cultivation of appreciation of the humble and underestimated dandelion and all she offers. In ways similar to us, she can appear as unremarkable at first. Then, as we open ourselves to really seeing her, we learn that she is the first source of nurture for bees in the spring, how her bright blossoms herald the return of light and warmth, how her leaves and roots provide nutrition for beings of all walks...and how she gives as we give, sometimes to the point of depletion.
In our work together, from a perspective of curiosity, we will learn the stories, their origins and impact as we strive to identify the one that is authentically yours. We will dig to the root to identify the strengths that brought you here and the gifts you offer, all in service of learning that you are more than the hard things that have happened in your life.
"Look at the
lovely dandelions
growing through
a crack
in the pavement.
Maybe,
you're
one of them.
Maybe,
we all are."
-Bhuwan Thapaliya